When A Friendship Ends
Grief nobody throws you a funeral for.
For a loss that does not get acknowledged.
The big idea
Losing a friend is a real bereavement, even when nobody treats it like one.
What does “When A Friendship Ends” walk through?
How Long?
Psalms 13:1 · KJV
How long wilt thou forget me, O Lord? for ever? how long wilt thou hide thy face from me?
In plain English
How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me?
Permission To Say It
This complaint is in the songbook. God included the sentence where someone accuses him of forgetting them — which means your unpolished version is allowed too.
But I Have Trusted
Psalms 13:5 · KJV
But I have trusted in thy mercy; my heart shall rejoice in thy salvation.
In plain English
But I have trusted in your mercy. My heart will rejoice in your rescue.
“Grief and trust are not opposites. Most psalms hold both in the same breath.”
As Far As It Depends On You
Romans 12:18 · KJV
If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
In plain English
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Your Part Has A Limit
Paul builds a limit into the command — as far as it depends on you. Some things you cannot repair alone, and refusing to accept that is its own kind of pride.
New Every Morning
Lamentations 3:23 · KJV
They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.
In plain English
They are new every morning. Great is your faithfulness.
Pray
Father, this hurts more than I admit. Sit with me in it. Amen.
Write it down
What loss have you not let yourself grieve?
It was real
You are allowed to be sad about this.
Which passages does this journey use?
4 passages, drawn from Psalms 13:1, Psalms 13:5, Romans 12:18, Lamentations 3:23. Every verse appears here in the King James text with a plain-English line beside it, so you can read it without a commentary open. Allow about 7 minutes for the whole thing, or 8 short sittings.
- Psalms 13:1
- Psalms 13:5
- Romans 12:18
- Lamentations 3:23
Read any of these in full on the complete KJV, or look the wording up independently at Blue Letter Bible.
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