Asking For Help
Pride is expensive.
On the courage it takes to say you are struggling.
The big idea
Refusing help is not strength. It is usually fear wearing strength's clothes.
What does “Asking For Help” walk through?
Confess To One Another
James 5:16 · KJV
Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
In plain English
Admit your faults to each other and pray for each other, so you can be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
Healing Is Attached To Telling
James links healing to the telling. Not to fixing yourself first — to saying it out loud to another person.
Test Your Own Work
Galatians 6:4 · KJV
But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.
In plain English
Test your own work. Then your sense of worth will come from what you did, not from comparing yourself to someone else.
“Everyone you admire has needed help. You just did not see that part.”
Pride Comes Before
Proverbs 16:18 · KJV
Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.
In plain English
Pride comes before destruction, and arrogance before the fall.
Silence Is Not Humility
Refusing to burden anyone can look humble while being the proudest thing in the room — a refusal to be someone who needs.
Come Boldly
Hebrews 4:16 · KJV
Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
In plain English
So come boldly to the throne of grace, where you will find mercy and grace to help you right when you need it.
Pray
Father, give me the courage to say I am not okay. Amen.
Write it down
What would you have to admit in order to get help?
Say it out loud
One person. Today if you can.
Which passages does this journey use?
4 passages, drawn from James 5:16, Galatians 6:4, Proverbs 16:18, Hebrews 4:16. Every verse appears here in the King James text with a plain-English line beside it, so you can read it without a commentary open. Allow about 7 minutes for the whole thing, or 8 short sittings.
- James 5:16
- Galatians 6:4
- Proverbs 16:18
- Hebrews 4:16
Read any of these in full on the complete KJV, or look the wording up independently at Blue Letter Bible.
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